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Decisions: Do You Give Up Your Happiness for a Better Family Opportunity?

Dear Readers,

I know I don't write often, but when I do, I usually give a happy article. Well, today is a new chapter for me as a writer; I am giving you vulnerability.

One might say this is long overdue in a world that can't always be sunshine and rainbows.

In the past few months, I have received everything I have wanted. I've had junior and senior drum major positions as part of the Jazz band and I am continuing that position as I go into my senior year. I have friends who support me and treat me well. I have a good doctor for my medical condition, and I am excited to finish off my senior year with dreams and friends who support me (In-person friends, I have a huge support system online from earlier duty stations as well).

But the military gave my dad an opportunity, and I think it's a once-in-a-lifetime one.

If he takes the opportunity and gets accepted, we would have to leave and go to another duty station in another state like Colorado, Florida, or even California. He would be part of the Space Force.

When I was told this, while my sisters agreed he should take it on, there was a moment I sat there and thought:

  • Was this what I wanted?

  • Could I leave what I have?

  • Could I handle it?

  • Could my sisters handle it?

  • Could I handle the transition right before my senior year starts?

  • Could I handle it if everything went wrong for me?

Then the next words that came out of my mouth were, "Dad, take it."

I could face many challenges if my dad got the job:

  • Transfer of credits could go wrong

  • Losing friends

  • Losing my Drum Major position

  • Losing of Jazz Band position

  • Lonely beginnings

  • Unknown Territories

  • Potential of being alone

Though I could lose everything, I am willing to because of three things:

  1. New adventure

  2. Big opportunity for my dad

  3. A new start for my sisters

Personally, I think the most important one is number three because currently, my sisters live in a situation where they are unalike, alone, treated differently. They need a new start. Even though I have everything I've ever wanted, my sisters are miserable and I would give everything to see one of my sisters not come home crying.

I hate being alone but seeing my sister cry was the breaking point. I would do anything for my family.

So, the question is: do you give up your happiness for a better family opportunity?

Yes, I would. I would give up everything even if it's during my senior year. It's a great opportunity for my dad to advance his career, it would make my sisters happy, and it would give me a sense of adventure.


UPDATE: It is now almost a month after I wrote this, and found out my dad sadly didn't get the job.

I learned a few things while waiting for the results and getting the results:

  1. The world works in mysterious ways and though my dad didn't get the job. Maybe this will finally be the last missed opportunity, his change of new character arc.

  2. I am sort of disappointed.


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